Or if perhaps both folk become refused and unloved

Thank you for stumping myself. I could has replied your questions about whether two people have to be of the identical design while I answered Kimberly, above; when the style of each party is Secure, subsequently certainly; otherwise, in my view, vulnerable people are much better off discovering a protected mate versus someone of every other preferences.

Im guessing that goodwill is a lot harder to find if one mate seems captured (Avoidant) in addition to various other feels declined and unloved (Anxious/Ambivalent)

And studies have shown that Insecure style individuals tend to act with techniques which make goodwill unlikely, because they by themselves usually see and instinctively manufacture issues within their relations.